Post-Manifesto Polygamy: The 1899-1904 Correspondence of Helen, Owen, and Avery Woodruff (Vol. 11 in the Life Writings of Frontier Women series)
By
Phillip A. Snyder, Lu Ann Faylor Snyder
Reviewed by
Laura Compton
On
11/30/2009
Utah State University Press, 2009
Cloth binding:
196 pages (Biographical List; Endnotes; Bibliography; Index
ISBN-10: 0-87421-739-3
ISBN-13: 978-0-87421-739-1
Price: $34.95
How did they do it? How did 19th- and early 20th-Century Mormons
grapple with the demands of polygamous relationships? At a time when
Federal agents could be lurking around any corner and when Apostles were
threatened with Congressional subpoenas, how did families handle
everyday issues of life on the western frontier?
Wives and children rarely saw fathers, polygamous partners used secret
codes to refer to people and places, clandestine meetings had to be
arranged between spouses, and letters were regularly returned as
undeliverable because nobody knew where the recipient(s) had gone.
Such were the realities that threatened to disrupt the family life of
people like Helen, Owen and Avery Woodruff at the turn of the 20th century.
In the latest volume of the Life Writings of Frontier Women series from
USU Press, Phillip Snyder has compiled the research of his spouse Lu Ann
Faylor Snyder into an easily accessible, sometimes fascinating,
sometimes disconcerting, study. Post-Manifesto Polygamy: The
1899-1904 Correspondence of Helen, Owen, and Avery Woodruff is one of
the few books documenting the lives of LDS church members in good
standing living in post-manifesto polygamous unions, and as such it is
and will be an important window into this unusual lifestyle.
Apostle Abraham Owen Woodruff, known as Owen or A.O. Woodruff, was the
son of one-time church president Wilford Woodruff. The same President
Woodruff who issued the 1890 Manifesto which supposedly did away with
plural marriage among the Saints. What, then, was Owen doing when he
took a second wife, Eliza Avery Clark, in early 1901?
“Although many Latter-day Saints reluctantly accepted the loss of
polygamy as a requirement necessary for Utah and the church to enter
into mainstream American society, many did not, especially some in
general church leadership positions,” writes Snyder in the Introduction
(p.7). But that’s all he says about post-manifesto polygamy. A bit
more background might be helpful to readers new to the idea that plural
marriages continued to be contracted after 1890. The Encyclopedia of
Mormonism (2:853) states:
“While nearly all Church leaders in 1890 regarded the Manifesto as
inspired, there were differences among them about its scope and
permanence. Some leaders were understandably reluctant to terminate a
long-standing practice that was regarded as divinely mandated. As a
result, a limited number of plural marriages were performed over the
next several years. Not surprisingly, rumors of such marriages soon
surfaced, and beginning in January 1904, testimony given in the Smoot
hearings made it clear that plural marriage had not been completely
extinguished. The ambiguity was ended in the General Conference of April
1904, when the First Presidency issued the ‘second manifesto,’ an
emphatic declaration that prohibited plural marriage and proclaimed that
offenders would be subject to Church discipline, including excommunication.”
The generation of men and women leading the church in the 1890s had
significant experiences with polygamy, either as practitioners or as
children of polygamists. Certainly they were familiar with the Church
teachings on the importance of The Principle and were well aware of the
depth of sacrifice made by many to live it, despite mounting outside
pressure to cease and desist. Many believed they had been called of God
and that plural marriage was not only an eternal principle, but a
necessity for salvation. To quit polygamy would be to renounce their
eternal destinies. Yet, they needed to find peace with the world, for
the world was threatening the very existence of the young church,
keeping leaders on the run or in hiding or out of the country on
missions and freezing church assets in an effort to drive the members to
their knees.
Owen Woodruff was one of the Church leaders who felt strongly about the
eternal importance, and even necessity, of polygamy. Snyder reports he
wrote in his journal, “I owe my exhistance to the principal of Polygamy
and I have some intense feelings regarding the sustaining of that
principle. I am indebted to that principle for my life and anytime my
Father wants my life to defend that principle (and those who practice it
in righteousness) God being my helper it is at his command.” (p. 21-22)
While Snyder documents some of Owen’s life, the majority of the
correspondence in this volume is by and about his wives. Their letters
record their joys and sorrows, fears and frustrations in coping with an
absent husband, a life of secrecy and, for Helen especially, the burden
of basically being a single parent. And gratefully, they ignored his
counsel (at least in part) and neglected to burn all of his personal
correspondence with them, so we have a small record of how Owen tried to
assuage fears and reassure his wives while at the same time providing
guidance, counsel and direction on running households, paying bills and
completing tasks on his behalf.
Helen, busy as she is with many things, often includes anecdotes about
her children so Owen will know what’s happening at home:
“Our baby has a very bad cold in his head and coughs all the time. Last
night he nearly had croup. I was up for or five times to doctor him in
the night.... I just tell you a few thinghs he did yesterday to amuse
himself. He took the key out of the kitchen door and dug about a square
ft. of plaster of the wall with it. I got the big bath tub ready to put
him in and went to get a towel, when I got back he had put one of his
shoes & stockings in to soak, and was in the act of putting the rest of
the clean clothes in. Then while I was in the tub he got the coal oil
can and spilt coal-oil all over himself. He plays in the coal bucket
all the time. I do not care for these triffles if he will only keep
well.” (p.56)
Yet just as often Helen seems to worry she is too stubborn or prideful
or selfish as she tends to the needs of her young family and tries to
come to terms with the fact that she’s now sharing her husband with a
woman 10 years younger than she is:
“Your prayers, dearest, in my behalf have been answered. I do feel
better than when you left me but still I do not feel exactly as I used
to. I love just the same but there is something that tries me all the
time and I think it will always be so, perhaps in a less degree. But we
cannot expect a reward unless we make a sacrifice, and if it were no
trial or sacrifice for me, where off would be the blessing.... I have
selfishness & stubbornness to overcome. I can see now that I have spent
my whole life in the gratification of my own selfish pleasure, but in
the future I live for others, for you, my nobler purer self, for that’s
what you are to me, and for my children, ...I just rise above self and
conquer all that is selfish or coarse in my nature.” (p.59).
Avery’s youthful enthusiasm in her early letters and journal entries is
gradually replaced by frustration and loneliness as she recognizes she
will never be a public wife and will always need to remain in hiding
from all but her very closest associates. She recalled her first
impressions of Elder Woodruff when he was visiting a conference at her
parents’ home in Star Valley. She was a teenager at the time, and in
less than two years would be Owen’s wife: “I had never seen bro. W.
before, but he at once captured my admiration and respect – I felt that
he was a great man – pure and holy. I questioned my love for Fred – if
only I could see him I would know! My frustration mounted during the
rest of the service.” (p. 47)
“At the close of the meeting brother W. stopped to shake hands with Mary
and me and asked if we intended going to B.Y.C. in the Fall ....” On the
way home from this encounter, Avery and her sister Mary “still raved on
about his good looks, intelligence, and personality wondering why there
weren’t more of his kind to be passed around so more deserving girls
could get a worthy husband. His wife – what a lucky woman!” (p.48)
As the hardships and realities of a secret life in the desert began to
take their toll on Avery, her idealistic views of marriage changed.
Troubles with childbearing also plagued young Avery, adding to her
loneliness and sometime despair, neatly summarized in the following
story from her early days in the Mexican colonies:
“Of an evening I sat with bro. Taylor’s family in their font porch in
full view of my little home. On one such evening Mary Bennion had taken
dinner with us & bro. Taylor invited us all to the front porch.... In his
prayer bro. Taylor asked the Lord to make it possible that sister
Bennion be provided with a home in ‘this fair land,’ to add to her
contentment.... After we arose Mayme said: ‘Bro. Taylor please don’t
ever pray for me to have a home in Mexico – I don’t want one. All I
want is to leave this place as soon as possible as soon as it is safe to
return to Utah. No home is going to keep me tied to this forsaken land.’
“Mayme’s speech made me tremble for I saw in that hewn stone that built
my home the very quality of permanency.” (p.122) Avery told Owen of the
exchange, to which he replied, she wrote, “ ‘This is our home as long as
we are in the flesh or not another dollar goes on the place.’ This fell
on my ears like a heavy blow, neither of us made further comment. he
left on an errand across town. Again I looked at the hewn stone that
formed a structure – my home that could last a thousand years!” (p.122)
Ironically, Owen spent almost no time at all in his home in Mexico due
to his untimely death from smallpox, making “our home” “Avery’s home”
for most of her stay in Mexico.
Yet both women recognized that they were making important sacrifices
which would bring them rewards and blessings sometime, somewhere. Their
letters and journal entries often reference the godliness they are
trying to build within themselves as they put away selfishness and work
for a greater good, always seeking to improve themselves by becoming
better wives and mothers, taking care of their homes and families as
they knew they should.
This book has some beautiful photographs of Avery, Owen, and Helen. It
would be great to have included copies of one or two of the handwritten
letters and/or diary entries from each of them as well. There is a
personality and a presence that comes through with handwriting that just
cannot be reproduced with typesetting, no matter how carefully or
precisely that typesetting is edited. And the typesetting in this book
is helpful without being distracting when pointing out interlinear
insertions or deletions or marginalia.
Explanatory footnotes provide biographical information for many of the
people referred to in the letters and a brief Bibliography gives readers
hints as to where they might find more information about this
interesting period in Church history.
Snyder has done a fine job presenting the Woodruffs’ letters and journal
entries into a single, accessible volume, and the Woodruffs themselves
have such character and style in their correspondence that little else
is needed to make the work readable.
Copyright
2009